chick flicks... *groan* uhhh......

Chick flicks and love songs.

(P.S.... this is my 'abridged' love talk just because I prefer to discuss such things in person... tonight, I just talk about the aforementioned topics.)

Occasionally on the spur of a moment, I decide to fill my head with trash in the form of chick flicks and love songs.
It is my opinion that...

A. Chick flicks are Girl Porn.
and
B. Love Songs are an emotional roller coaster waiting to happen.

CHICK FLICKS = GIRL PORN

Take a minute and humor me... I found a few paragraphs that compare the two...

“Porn is an entertainment medium severely lacking in artistic integrity generally intended for males to indulge their out-of-control physical lusts. It creates the intense feelings of sex without the added complications of a relationship. It is the product of a society that replaces integrity and morals with immediate gratification that bears (seemingly) none of the consequences. But we find that this selfish gratification soon becomes an addiction, and creates unrealistic expectations of sexual health and competence, which often results in broken relationships (even marriages).

Chick flicks are also an entertainment medium generally lacking in artistic integrity (recycled plots, poor scriptwriting and acting) intended to create the intense emotions of being in love and indulge emotional lust when a relationship is not available or one that is fails to supply such feeling. They, also, are the product of a society that idealizes immediate gratification (we rarely see the hard work required for a relationship to work – just the good stuff), and minimize harm to others. The intense romantic feelings created, in conjuction with “perfect” male and female leads, create unrealistic romantic expectations for the target audience. If a relationship fails to look like the romances of film, if the all-too-familiar feelings cease, the relationship must not be “right.”

Now I am not suggesting that romantic comedies are as morally objectionable as pornography. I am just pointing out similarities between the two forms of “entertainment.” Both porn and romance films let people indulge in desires for a short amount of time, and over indulgence leads to unrealistic expectations within relationships.”

While they might be cute and funny... sweet and romantic... they aren't smart for the single gal... (or the taken one... but I can speak only from experience so will only address the single-hood) Chick flicks place you in a vulnerable state that is only enhanced when you are single. You watch what looks to be this AMAZINGG, romantic, wonderful relationship shared between jason statham and his co... and because (of course) he's GORGEOUS, you begin thinking 'Well... this is what it should be like... men need to be at my beck and call... and be sweet ... and kind... and sensitive... and emotional... and romantic... and want to rub my feet... and come running every time I call... They should forgo their friendships, family, job and only focus on me..." Right?

But what we fail to see is that after the camera stops rolling, the real world begins- And all those actors were all just playing a part... in an effort to take your money. **DISCLAIMER** I realize that not all people are alike... I'm talking about the general public and a lot of the people I've seen and met.... In the real world though, men- AREN'T PERFECT... women... AREN'T perfect... Men can't tell what you're thinking... unless you tell them... AND from what I've heard, they're just as clueless about you, as you are them... They aren't handed a secret "Men's Handbook to Women" the day they reach maturity.
Chick flicks create in women a false emotional ideal of romance and marriage. To make matters worse, GOOD LUCK GUYS... cause let's be honest... you'll never compare to Mr. Darcy or Jason Statham (in like.. anything he does ;-))... which is yet another downfall of the chickflick... 'women end up comparing men to fictional heroes and disregarding the qualities that are actually important-- faith, character, regard for others-- in favor of physical attraction or chemistry.'

 I realize that some girls out there will greatly disagree, and inevitably begin throwing a little hissy fit, but really?!? Slap yourself upside the head, take a step back, and re-evaluate...

All in all, I guess the biggest problem I have is the fact that when I watch one of these films I typically begin to struggle with loneliness and being impatient with God and His timing. I struggle and am consumed with "singleness"... and want a quick fix... and am vulnerable to ditch my top important standards...

And therefore... I try to avoid it at all costs...
If you know what your weaknesses are.... why on earth would you tempt yourself?? I'm not saying that I never watch them, cause I still do... and You've Got Mail is one of my favs... However, I am very careful in how many and how often I watch.

I may never have Mr. Darcy.. or Jason... or Vin... or Morgan from Criminal Minds...
but that's okay.
Because I'll have something better.
IF I'm patient and faithful to my Maker.

I'll have the man GOD picked out for me. In HIS timing.
I'll have a man who seeks after God's own heart.
I'll have a MAN, not a boy.
I'll have a man who falls in love with the Jesus in ME...
I'll have a man who values the treasure I am.
I'll have a man who knows my heart...
I'll have a man who knows everything about me... and still loves me.
I'll have a man who makes me laugh.
I'll have a man who will be brave enough to meet my brothers-- before the wedding...haha...
I'll have a man who-
respects me.
supports me.
CHALLENGES me in my walk with Christ.
and so much more...
In other words...
Darcy and Jason won't even begin to compare to the love God chooses for me :-)
And while I still struggle,
it's really not that bad... not that bad at all. Because the comfort I find in knowing that God knows EXACTLY who is it... makes my heart happy.

A few years ago, Tony Nutter said some of the most sage words to me ever... that right now at this very moment God is molding, creating, preparing my future husband for me... AND at THIS VERY MOMENT... God is molding, creating, and preparing ME for MY FUTURE HUSBAND.

Straight from the book----
"Don't excite love, don't stir it up, until the time is ripe-- and you're ready..."

"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."

Song of Solomon (Message and NIV translations)



P.S. If you don't agree, that's fine... no rain on my parade.. haha...
BUT. If you're interested in discussing my perspective, I'd love to meet up and talk.

With lots of love, Kristina.